Am I experiencing domestic abuse?

  • Are you afraid of your partner?
  • Do you feel isolated, bullied or belittled?
  • Does your partner try to keep you from seeing friends or family?
  • Does your partner constantly check up on you?
  • Does your partner regularly criticise or insult you?
  • Does your partner physically hurt you?
  • Do you feel as if you are walking on egg shells?
  • Do you change your behaviour to avoid triggering an incident?
  • Does your partner threaten you or your children?
  • Does your partner control the money?
  • Does your partner force you to have sex?
  • Does your partner make do things you really don't want to do?
  • Does your partner accuse you of flirting or being unfaithful?
  • Does your partner say you are useless and couldn’t cope without them?
  • Has your partner ever deliberately damaged your possessions?
  • Do your partner's sudden changes of mood dominate the house?
  • Are you afraid of making your own decisions?

If you have answered yes to one or more of these questions then you may be experiencing domestic abuse.

Please talk to someone you trust about it — a friend, your health visitor, your GP — or call a helpline (numbers listed in the sidebar on this page). You do not have to give your name but get advice. There is also lots of information on this website that can help you.

Here is an American video on the subject of domestic abuse about recognising the problem:

It is important for you to know that:

  • people will believe you
  • you are not alone
  • it is not your fault
  • you have the right to feel safe and live free of abuse.