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Male domestic abuse victims

Is it different for men? There are both similarities and differences. Some of the responses to violence from a partner are the same. Being abused by somebody you love and trust can be confusing and bewildering, and any victim whether male or female may wonder if it's their fault. The emotions they feel are going to be similar whether they are male or female, but it can be harder for men to cope with the emotional impact of domestic abuse.

Admitting to being abused is difficult for anybody, but men often don't have the social networks in place to easily tell a friend or family member. When guys go down the pub it is not necessarily for a chat. Phone lines, like the Men's Advice Line, (MALE) will give them the opportunity to talk in confidence.

The Trades Union Congress commissioned a report- Domestic Violence & the Workplace, 2014 which looks at how DA can impact on people's working lives, carreer and productivity in a working envirionment.

For both male and female victims of abuse, the message is the same:

  • you are not alone
  • it is not your fault
  • help is available.

 

 

What can I do if I am in a violent relationship?

  • Recognise that it is happening to you.
  • Accept that you are not to blame.
  • If possible, try and extricate yourself from the situation and leave as your personal safety is of paramount importance.
  • Do not retaliate physically or verbally
  • Keep a diary of incidents, noting down times, dates and witnesses, if any.
  • Keep a photographic record of injuries.
  • Report each incident to your GP or hospital.
  • Take advice regarding injunctions from a reliable solicitor.
  • Seek help from a local council housing officer, especially if children are involved.
  • Ensure that you have your evidence.

What can i do if i am in a controlling relationship

  • Services now recognise that you don't have to be hit to be hurt- contact a local domestic abuse service and talk about it.
  • Learn what your options are 
  • Recognise what strategies you adopt to manage the consequences
  • Find someone you can trust and talk it through
  • Whilst most victims are female, services do recognise that male victims do exist, so talk to them
  • Make records about what is happening and keep the notes safe, document what is happening and how that makes you feel
  • Taking on a pattern of coercive or controlling behaviour in an intimate or family relationship is a criminal offence NOTE: Link text should always be descriptive so that pages work properly with screen readers to learn more

 

 

What help is available?

Men have exactly the same rights as women to be safe in their own homes. All statutory services (the police, Crown Prosecution Service, housing departments and social services) have a duty to provide services to all, whatever their gender. Men are protected by exactly the same laws as women - anyone who has assaulted another person, regardless of the gender of either, can be prosecuted.

If you are a man experiencing domestic violence and you need emergency help you can call the police on 999. If you don't find the right help immediately, it's important that you keep looking until you find someone who can support you at this difficult time. It doesn't make you weak to ask for help.

 

 

LEGAL AID

Read More to access details about Legal Aid applications for domestic abuse cases.

Read More to access a government eligibility calculator

Services available below contain links to relevant websites- click on the organisation's name to access their website.

Safeline (for men, women and adolescents who have experienced sexual abuse)

main helpline: 01926 402 498

male helpline: 0808 800 5005

young people’s helpline: 0808 800 5007

Survivors UK: (for adult male survivors of rape or sexual assault)

Web chat / Send a text to 020 3322 1860

E Mail-  info@survivorsuk.org

Men’s Advice Line (for men experiencing domestic violence and abuse)

Call us Monday – Friday 9am-5pm on freephone 0808 801 0327

(free from landlines and from mobiles using the O2, Orange, T Mobile, Three (3), EE, Virgin, and Vodafone networks)

Email: info@mensadviceline.org.uk

MANKIND

The ManKind Initiative operates a confidential helpline for men who experience violence from their partners or ex-partners.

Tel: 01823 334244

VICTIM SUPPORT

Victim Support is the independent charity which helps people cope with the effects of crime. We provide free and confidential support and information to help you deal with your experience.

Tel: 0845 450 3883

KARma NIRVANA

Karma Nirvana supports male and female victims of honour crimes and forced marriages  Its staff and most of its 18 volunteers are survivors of forced marriage and 'honour'-based violence.

Tel: 0800 5999 247

FORCED MARRIAGE.NET

This website provides advice, information and essential contacts to help people out of a forced marriage.

VICTIMS FIRST

Information and advice on what to do and how to get help if you've been a victim of crime in Berkshire, Buckinghamshire or Oxfordshire

PROTECTION AGAINST STALKING AND HARASSMENT

Provides information, support and advice to victims of stalking and harassment.

Tel: 0300 636 0300

Paladin Service

National Stalking Advocacy Service. 

Email: info@paladinservice.co.uk

Tel: 020 3866 4107.

Additional Resources

Crown Prosecution Service Policies, 2017

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